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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Willis002 on November 01, 2016, 11:04:50 PM



Title: Mirroring a Narcissist
Post by: Willis002 on November 01, 2016, 11:04:50 PM
I was just wondering. I've been doing some research and my exBPD girlfriend doesn't show many of these traits. But when I spoke to her ex fiancé he called her a narcissist. He admitted to me he is a narcissist. So my question could she have mirrored him to the point she was a narcissist during their relationship. I never saw any of these traits, but kind of sense them since I've been discarded. I could be wrong and just be thinking that all this hurt has just been caused by her BPD.


Title: Re: Mirroring a Narcissist
Post by: Curiously1 on November 02, 2016, 12:51:32 AM
Possibly. But if she is just BPD that you know of then she's probably just displaying her usual BPD traits manifesting into behaving differently for the person she is currently with. She cant exactly become a NPD unless shes comorbid. There are narcissistic traits in BPD. Their understanding of themselves is a bit different. BPDs have an unstable sense of who they are. NPDs are known to have a grandiose "false" self. It's more stable but it's still false. It's slightly different to how BPDs view themselves. I think BPD is known to be more all over the place, always changing personas cos deep down they don't like themselves or know who they are. NPDs are insecure and dont know who they are too but they believe  their false self is who they are which is an identity built on a massivr lie that they are superior to everyone around them in every way.


Title: Re: Mirroring a Narcissist
Post by: neverloveagain on November 02, 2016, 02:42:06 AM
This is a good video to check out on the subject. https://youtu.be/Oe3PZv0MS7o