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Title: Utter confusion Post by: Pamy on November 04, 2016, 07:30:37 PM I recently was left again by my girlfriend of 5 years. She was diagnosed with BPD almost 20 years ago and has never stayed in therapy long enough to get to the root of the issue. She goes for a few sessions and then quits and blames the therapist. Everything just seems so foreign to me I see things that never actually happened and am starting to believe them and question my own reality. Which is so strange to me because I have always seen things pretty clearly. I want to help her so much and love her more and more. I can see what she puts herself through and it hurts so bad to watch her self destruct. I try to understand what she must feel and the sad thing is I am starting to almost feel what she does. Never ever been so in love and so confused at the same time.
Title: Re: Utter confusion Post by: C.Stein on November 05, 2016, 08:37:31 AM Never ever been so in love and so confused at the same time. Hey Pamy, Yes, I sure do understand that feeling. I also was very confused, both during and after my relationship ended. I couldn't understand why my ex did things that were destructive to herself and our relationship. She wanted our relationship to progress towards marriage and a family, yet she seemed hell bent on making sure that never happened. It still confuses me to this day even though I can understand now how BPD played a roll in the destructive behavior. It is important you don't make her problems and dysfunction your own. Try to remain a detached observer, don't internalize her chaos or you run the risk of getting lost in it. Please feel free to share more of your story and I encourage you to check out the articles found on the right -----> |