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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: FallBack!Monster on November 04, 2016, 11:10:25 PM



Title: Do pwBPD think like this
Post by: FallBack!Monster on November 04, 2016, 11:10:25 PM
My ex left me. Move in with one of his ex. I been trying to move on with my life. I'm not ready for a new relationship so when he call on his birthday and ask if I wanted to be with him & go to our favorite restaurant I said yes. I was glad to see him. He was a gentleman that evening. We drink a little. When he drop me home after a good evening I let him come in my house. We had sex and it was good but different. Now I get a lot of strange calls and hang ups on my house phone. A lot of "f_buddy" email's, and freaky spams. He never contact me since. It was Oct 8.  He like a different person now. He have no respect for me at all. I know one thing, God is going to send me somebody to truly love me and he is going to stay because this man send by God, is going to be able to see my true worth.

My question is, do they come around
because they think no matter what they do or done, they think their exs would still want them or take them back?
It look like that to me. Maybe that's why they contact their exs any time, even years later . Maybe they think the ex is sitting somewhere waiting around for them to come back like from the store or something like that. Maybe they think if you're not doing like they're doing, you must be sad because they're with someone else. My ex use to say he thought everybody did and thought like him. Now I know what he means by that.


Title: Re: Do pwBPD think like this
Post by: One key on November 05, 2016, 02:29:52 AM
We dont really know what they are thinking.
Tgey are impulsive and very scared of being abandannid and rejected.
It is commin that they try to have a couple of options in development.

But please dont try to follow their erratic and impulsive thinking patterns.
Better to understand yourself better.

This guy is incurable. He will be like this forever.
So if you can not deal with that, than going no contact is a good option to make it more easy for yourself