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Have read numerous posts here. Been looking for one story that was something or somewhat different than the others, to no avail. Even went few years back. Wow. Almost 100℅ same stories. Entirely taken from the disorder or disordered person point of view. All express anger, frustration, hurt, confusion, abandonment, so on. Wanted to say so much but it all has been said more than 2000 times, on over 1000 pages. So much, that the website people shouldn't even bother replying to new post. They can create hotkeys or keywords to direct a newbie to pre explanations or literature to the newbie's current emotional state.
Story I want to tell today is different.  It's of 2 lost lost souls who found each other but not really. One filled to the brim with rage, the other filled with disappointments. Believes the only (constant) consistent things in (her) life is disappointment. Also 98℅ of people you meet in life are going to disappoint you. Only thing you can do is brace yourself because you kbow it is coming. You cannot avoid meeting people. The one filled with rage, well that's all that's real in her life. The rest is superficial. Her existence, her words, her expression, her stories, so on. One thing for sure, Rage was destined to win and so was disappointment. Only thing they had in common was their will to try again. Ultimately, the professional abandoner abandoned, and the the disappointed wasn't disappointed... .by the outcome. Deep down wishing it didn't have to be what it was all along. Good news, both left with what they brought.  The end

HiNoGd4rs,

*welcome*

I was with my ex wife for several years and didn't find out about BPD until after she left me. At one point I thought that I'm going through an experience that no one else has because no one in real life understood what I was trying to say, I felt like I was going crazy. Finally,  I found this forum and lurked for about a week and I was amazed at how I could relate to a lot of the posts from different members.

It's hard for me to explain the feeling that iI thought I was going something alone for so many years and to find others just like me. I didn't have to explain myself because people "got it", nobody in real life got it, they thought that I must of done something to deserve what I received from my ex wife. Sure, a lot of the stories share similarities but it's our story, it really helps to get it off of our chests.

That said, 20% of life is what happens to us, 80% is how we react to it, so is it realistic that most strangers that we meet are going to disappoint us or are we setting ourselves up for dissappointment? Are we trying to find something that validates this belief? Why does everyone dissappoint you? Where do you find the middle ground for this perspective? Does your username mean "no good for relationships"?

Thank you.
Setting ourselves up for dissappointment? As an adult, I guess depends on the individual & his or her lifestyle. As a child, you have no choices but to take what you get. Myself wouldn't say 20℅ is what happens to us. I don't know your life personally. Me? No 20/80.
Many questions here. Validation for me is, news paper articles, the news, watching and hearing about other people.  The world is greedy &  shallow. Spouses that instead of getting a divorce and paying alimony or child support, choose the ultimate self service. Child abuse, comes in many forms. Websites like this weren't created because a child had it good bu,t a weak perspective. Not all personal disappointments.  One can can admire someone from a far Later find out what garbage of a person they really are to their loves ones.  It happens often.  Crooked law enforcement, people in business, Drs priest. and so on. Never met a happy couple. Never!  Pretended to be happy to other people but at least one is unhappy. For you last question. Yes!

Most importantly, in my OP, hope you didn't take it as invalidating. I'm more than sure it helps people who need it. No argument there.

Thanks again.