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Just found out my BPD ND H hacked into this site and has read all my posts. Don't know how he found it. Don't know how he knew what my screen name is.

Told me his (emotionally abusive(my words here) behaviors were a result of reading the posts about him and how negative I see him. I responded, I wouldn't be posting if the things that were happening weren't happening. It was all honest and true.

I needed support somewhere in my life. And again he takes no responsibility for the actions. At the end of the day its all on me. My fault for the abuse inflicted on me. My fault for the negative behaviors. Funny because the posts happened after the behaviors occurred.

He told me "find someone else to blame and treat like the enemy. Doesn't matter what i do. Im still making you miserable."   

Here you go husband hope you can read the responses to this behavior and get help. I did all I could do on my part.

Sorry that is tough. How do you access the site? I have found tracking software on my phone and on my computer, even my work computer. She has no boundaries.

I reset my phone and added a screen lock. I don't access the site from home anymore and she can no longer access my work computer.

You need this, you need a support system in place. Our partners don't agree they want to keep us to themselves. Their fear of abandonment causes them to keep an eye on us.
That is not healthy and it is not trusting. No relationship should be without privacy.

You can also try to explain to him that you need to relieve stress if you want to stay in a relationship with him then you certainly do not want to let your or his friends know what he is really like because honestly they have no clue. For the betterment of your relationship with him it is best to come someplace like this to let it out.

A lot of what people say here is true, some of it is just venting frustration and is not always 100% accurate never the less it is what they felt they needed to say at the time and is never meant to be read by the other party.
He also needs to realize that you picked an anonymous place to protect him.
Reasoning doesn't always work, but there is nothing wrong with what you are doing.
Hang in there.

This happened to me to on another site with my BPD spouse.  The retort from her was almost verbatim what you wrote. 

I feel for you. 

Hang in there!

Thank you both! Its exhausting.

I know this may seem immoral, but I am in favor of tracking devices to be used on our BPD w/h/o.  We, as caregivers, are always functioning in a deficit position with our BPD h/w/ohelps in gauging these behaviors for proper dispositions.  In my opinion, the disease isn't fair, so we need something that can give us a helping hand.  Everything has potential for abuse, but I believe that we, as caregivers of this brutal disorder, are tried and true... .More like, help me - help you. 

Genuine