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I am tired and sad. I have been on the verge of divorce for far too long. It seems like the most consecutive decent days we can get have been four at the most. He is not trying to seek help and my spirit is crumbling. We have three kids 15,3,2 the oldest is mine from previous relationship but considers him to be dad and we have the two younger ones both girls. The girls love him are so happy when mommy and daddy are together. I lost both of my parents in 2014 and so not have a lot of family support. He has no family here we're we live at all. So I have asked him to leave but he says he has no where to go. I truly just want the best for him I would love to work it out but it's not going to happen. I won't have the money to financially do anything until Feb. I really just do not know what to do. I have my faith which has kept me strong but it is getting to the point I am tired and he needs little to act out these days...

Is there even a right way to discuss separating for real to him? I just want this to be civil it already is upsetting enough. I want to show our marriage the respect and dignity it deserves but is he going to allow that?

Hi a west,  you sound exhausted and I'm sorry you're hurting so much, but welcome to the family. You've found a good place for understanding and support. It sounds like your husbands not listening to you. Can you tell us a little more about what he does when you try talking to him and how he acts out? 

Hi a west,

*welcome*

I'm sorry to hear that.  It's sad to hear that the kids are attached to him but he's not putting in effort. You suffered two major losses not long ago, have you talked to a T? ( therapist ) It has to be incredibly difficult with your marriage in crisis too. You don't have to go through by yourself. It helps to share with people that can relate with you. Hang in there.