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Title: give me more perspective on NC on pw BPD Post by: jammit123 on December 05, 2016, 03:41:28 PM If a pwBPD is the one who creates the NC and blocks all communication, is it because they need to regulate and care for themselves or is it because they painted you black and find you annoying? Obviously it depends on the situation. I just wonder if in my case I am misinterpreting the reason why I'm being blocked. I'm so hurt by this. Never has anyone blocked me and it baffles me. This whole thing baffles me. All of this because of a minor (and I mean minor) misunderstanding.
I don't feel like retelling my whole story. I'm just curious if a pw BPD would take such drastic measures to care for themselves. It's usually the other way around, right? It's the family/friend of pwBPD who goes NC. I don't know. Like I've mentioned before... .I have a feeling friend thinks I'm the one with BPD. Title: Re: give me more perspective on NC on pw BPD Post by: Julia S on December 05, 2016, 04:01:16 PM I wondered this the first time it happened with a pwBPD. They also implied they were going into a depressive phase just before, so I erred on the side of caution and responded as directed by friends who suffered depression. Unfortunately, I think it just gave the message it was OK to kick me. On a subsequent occasion I thought ignoring my messages was inability to regulate emotions, but then as soon as I clicked like on one of their social media posts they responded, making me think it was all manipulation. I think the reason might change from one moment to the next, and that second guessing is most likely a waste of energy.
Title: Re: give me more perspective on NC on pw BPD Post by: CooperD on December 05, 2016, 04:36:06 PM Jammit - i would love to know the answer to this myself.
My BPD wife has basically severed all contact with me / blocked me and my parents emails / calls and messages. The last correspondence I had was her threatening me with a restraining order and harrasment if i ever so dare contact her again. Its heartbreaking as she lied to me telling me she wanted to work on our marriage and then dropped divorce papers on me with a smile on her face and champagne in her hand. In my case I think she has decided to cut me so abruptly and cruelly because she has painted me black and therefore I have become like an enemy to her. I also think there is an aspect of sadism and that she might actually have enjoyed punishing me by knowing how desperate I was to have contact with her. I am now doing everything to work on myself and to maintain NC my side so that I dont reach out to her. She has subjected me to extreme pain and she is no longer deserving of my heart or love. |