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Title: Accused of cheating again and again Post by: mrstring on December 05, 2016, 06:47:38 PM Well I came back to this board and was in for quite a surprise, back in June 2015 I was writing about the same stuff. My post from back then.
"I didn't think she was until I looked up relationship help and signs kept pointing me in that direction. Fits of anger Blaming Deflection of any criticism Yelling at me telling me I've ruined her life Happy one minute then later that day brings up something that happened 10 years ago as if it was yesterday" They are all still there, plus I read another post from back then that said she was always accusing me of cheating. I am glad I have this board to have an anonymous journal that can't be found or judged. Lately she has been saying how I am different and not the same caring person and that I am a liar and cheater. 14 years together, we live together. I was ready to blame the menopause but then saw my posts from over a year ago. I wonder, does it get any better. Despite all of this, I love her and our great moments are great, but she is so angry all the time and the accusations hurt, alot. Title: Re: Accused of cheating again and again Post by: ArleighBurke on December 05, 2016, 07:18:38 PM I'm not sure SHE can get better, but it (the marriage) CAN get better... .
There are skills you can learn to understand her better, talk with her better and feel in control again. "Lessons" on the panel to the right is a good place to start. And you need to develop a solid base of self-confidence to be able to withstand her constant abuse. But it can be done - there are many here who make it work... . |