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Title: Getting ignored by my BPD best friend Post by: Xrfx on December 06, 2016, 02:30:18 PM Hey... Dealing with a BPD is really hard... I'm always scared that I'm doing something wrong or that I'm not enough... I try my best to understand every action she does but sometimes I'm really done and hurt especially when she suddenly starts ignoring me I don't know what to do she's been doing it for a while and it really hurts I don't want to mention it because things would get worse if I did I don't know what to do... Things were going just fine but things suddenly changed... Please help I don't want to lose her...
Title: Re: Getting ignored by my BPD best friend Post by: drained1996 on December 06, 2016, 03:35:23 PM *welcome*
hello Xrfx, so sorry to hear about your difficulties you are having involving your BPD friend. You'll find you are not alone in your struggles when you begin to read the stories of others. Excerpt Dealing with a BPD is really hard You're absolutely correct there. One thing that many have learned here is that we cannot change them, but we can change how we react and communicate with them. To the right of this page you will see some tools and lessons that can help guide you into doing just that. In the tools part you may want to pay special attention to communicating boundaries and limits. These are things that can help you self protect when you get to the point of being able to understand your own needed limits when it comes to your relationship. We are here! Title: Re: Getting ignored by my BPD best friend Post by: Mutt on December 06, 2016, 06:00:17 PM Hi Xrfx,
*welcome* I'd like to join C<||| drained 19 6 and welcome you. I'm sorry to hear tat. That feeling like you're on edge all of time with your pwBPD is called "walking in eggshells" I'm glad that you decided to join us, talking with people that can relate with you helps. Do you talk to family and friends? Are the supportive? What do you lie to do? You said that she's hard to deal with, understandably so, it's incredibly difficult when you don't have tools but you need to give yourself a break too. Do you live together? |