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Hi all.

I was posting here over the summer after breaking up with my ex whom I suspect has BPD. We got back together for two months but the pattern continued - incessant rage towards me and one of her daughters.she threw me out 4 times in the 2 months and her Daughter also became suicidal, trying on 2 occasions.

I was falsely accused of verbally attacking her daughter. I didn't. My son was sick and her daughter began to shout and scream. I said to her that if she continued, I would have to take him away. A day later I was asked to leave the house. I asked my ex was she sure and she said yes. As soon as I began taking my things I was told I was abandoning her. So confusing.

I am asking for your opinions on this though. There has been a lot of violence between mother and daughter in the house. My son has not been hit but he has walked in to see them first fighting. He has seen me being assaulted. He has seen his sister with a rope around her neck. He has seen too much - he is not even 3. Should I report this to the authorities? Emotional abuse is horrible.
But witnessing physical abuse is horrible too.

I am scared for him. Since this split he has asked me if I will kill myself and has told me about his mum and sister fighting and a phone being cracked.

Part of me wishes I was still living there to protect him.

The situation sounds very volatile. You're safe,  but your son may not be.  Though it may be necessary,  reporting is an escalation. Do you have something like an anonymous report line so you can talk so someone? (I have this option on my city). What's your access like with your son at this point?

How awful, seenr. I would be scared for him too. Seeing his sister with a rope around her neck    and all that fighting, wow.

What is the legal arrangement between you and your son's mother?

How often do you see him?

You cannot protect a child from abuse just by living with him.

What do your instincts tell you to do?