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Title: What did I do to deserve this Post by: statsattack on December 13, 2016, 08:10:23 PM I just can't be happy for long periods anymore. I feel like my x is my master of puppets and anytime something makes me happy it's taken away from me
Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: Naughty Nibbler on December 14, 2016, 11:40:21 AM Hey statsattack:
Check out the links below. You might find some strategy/tools to help you. MEMORY MGMT. - [HAVE POSITIVE CONTROL OVER YOUR MEMORYl] (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103393.0;all) MEMORY MGMT. - RUMINATIONS (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103396.0;all) IMPROVE THE MOMENT (http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/improve_the_moment_worksheet.html) Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: Mutt on December 14, 2016, 11:43:06 AM Hi statsattack,
I'm sorry to hear that. Are you self protecting with no contact? Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: fromheeltoheal on December 14, 2016, 02:05:12 PM Hey stats-
I just can't be happy for long periods anymore. I feel like my x is my master of puppets and anytime something makes me happy it's taken away from me Consider that "happy" may not be the most empowering of goals, since it's unsustainable and dependent on something else usually. You might try progress as the goal instead, happiness is created by progress and just kind of shows up, but it's not necessary to be happy in the moment to make progress, and progress is measurable. So what's the goal? And how will you know you're making progress on it? Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: statsattack on December 14, 2016, 02:18:04 PM It's like any forward progress I make gets stripped and taken away from me.
Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: fromheeltoheal on December 14, 2016, 03:14:32 PM It's like any forward progress I make gets stripped and taken away from me. First, what are you progressing towards? If the goal is clear, yours and untouchable, no one can strip progress towards it away yes? Title: Re: What did I do to deserve this Post by: lovenature on December 16, 2016, 01:20:20 AM Stay NC. Continue learning about BPD. When you are ready, learn about why you valued your disordered partner over yourself. Know that recovery isn't linear, like life in general, so just try to accept the good with the bad.
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