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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Dontknow88 on December 15, 2016, 01:14:37 PM



Title: Childlike ?
Post by: Dontknow88 on December 15, 2016, 01:14:37 PM
I have come to realization that the child like personality was there from the Beginning. I haven't noticed it before because it was also the whole "honeymoon" faze.

But to the end he's like a child. Now an angry kid towards me and crushing like a child with his new girlfriend and  apparently  I'm the horrible horrible person.

I see that he works in patterns  and one day his girlfriend will be the horrible person when he find someone new out of the blue. I actually hope she doesn't have kids for him so she won't be stuck like me.

During a phone call  he wants to see our son but the day he wants to come I will not be in town this is what he said as a reply " you're a big meanie" then started crying



Am I wrong for having absolutely no sympathy for him anymore.  I already have a kid to take care of I'm not obligated to him anymore


Title: Re: Childlike ?
Post by: rarsweet on December 15, 2016, 04:45:11 PM
They really are stunted, frozen. I, too, felt that I was supposed to parent my ex. I think they keep looking for a parent figure instead of a partner, that unconditional love only a parent should have for a child. When of course you don't put up with bad behavior you are the enemy, the rejecting parent that they have to bash so that you are the one they don't want instead of the other way around.