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Title: How do I handle anger? Post by: freespirit17 on December 16, 2016, 08:28:44 PM Hi! Fairly new to this group. I'm seeking guidance on how to handle my BPD partner's anger. He has the tendency to physically hurt people, even the people he loves. I know this trait is very common. And as a non-BPD, our first reaction is to leave. When you return, your BPD will most likely be angry still because you left. How do I handle such situations?
Title: Re: How do I handle anger? Post by: Portent on December 16, 2016, 09:17:33 PM Im new but Im reading walking on eggshells and one thibg I picked out early is that its not anger. Its fear. They are scared.
Tell her that you know she is scared. Title: Re: How do I handle anger? Post by: SettingBorders on December 17, 2016, 12:45:31 AM Physical violence is very serious. Why don't you want to leave?
Compassion is the wrong reaction as long as he is treating you bad. Title: Re: How do I handle anger? Post by: Five28 on December 17, 2016, 01:38:10 PM Unless you want to be his punching bag, I'd start doing whatever I could to leave. Start saving money, look for places to stay, etc. If he can get physical with those he loves, and you are one of his loves, then sooner or later you'll be on the receiving end. Check out this video. Pretty sad when a loved one abuses someone like this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03HnWYb3oTs Title: Re: How do I handle anger? Post by: rosesarered777 on December 17, 2016, 01:43:49 PM As someone who has been hit a number of times in her rages over the years, the rages do get more and more severe. I don't think there is any solution because she refuses to accept that it is a problem and that she needs to learn coping skills. Her constant drinking and overeating since the beginning was something I naively thought she would outgrow, not knowing that she was very mentally ill and will likely be obese soon if she continues the habit into her mid-30's.
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