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Title: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: tammym1972 on December 16, 2016, 10:17:12 PM By the end of my almost four year relationship with my ex the stress I was causing him by being with me actually made him sick. His blood pressure went through the roof. His doctor gave him three types of blood pressure medication and that didn't even help.
He started going for long drives, staying away after work, even sleeping in the park! That made him better because he was away from me. We weren't fighting at all, things were going ok. He said he felt trapped with me. He really got better when he started seeing his new girlfriend that also has BPD and PTSD. He said I never "got" him. Anyway, has anyone else had any similar experiences? Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: Mutt on December 17, 2016, 09:47:59 PM Hi Tammym1972,
My ex was avoiding my like the plague after she left me. I recall seeing her and she was just glowing, she was really depressed by the end of our marriage, she was not taking care of herself. It was hard to see that because I was left behind in so much pain, she seemed happy, it's idealization she was chasing, she said she never felt better, that only lasts for so long. Slowly but surely the perfect image she has in her mind about her bf begins to crack, she sees the imperfections and she'll end up hating him too. Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: Duped 1 on December 17, 2016, 09:55:12 PM Mutt- did she start to come down to reality yet or is she still in idolization?
Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: Mutt on December 17, 2016, 09:59:54 PM She's splitting him black. He's going to be the source of all of her malaises.
Excerpt He said he felt trapped with me. A pwBPD fear engulfment with all of their romantic partners. That's what he's telegraphing when he says he felt trapped Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: Duped 1 on December 17, 2016, 10:16:45 PM Sounds like devaluation is in full swing Mutt. How long did that take?
Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: lovenature on December 17, 2016, 11:58:26 PM Sure tammy I have, once we get too close we trigger a PWBPD's fear of engulfment; we must be the problem, sadly they can't articulate that they push away everyone who gets too close-they are the common denominator.
Title: Re: I Literally Made My Ex BPDbf Sick Post by: tammym1972 on December 18, 2016, 05:56:57 PM That makes sense guys, in a weird sort of way. I don't think I will ever completely understand BPD behavior though. He was trying to convince me I had changed, that the problem was me, but I didn't think so. I knew I pretty much was the same I had always been.
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