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Title: How can I approach my husband that I think he has BPD? Post by: EWVR13 on December 17, 2016, 01:10:53 AM Hi,
Firstly I'm so grateful to have found all the information this website provides. I have been with my husband for over 15 years and I now realise he shows many symptoms of suffering from BPD. I want to help even though i also want to walk away at times. I am trying to read and learn as much as I can to try to make our relationship better. My question is however when / how can I approach my husband to tell him I think that he has BPD? I think he will become utterly enraged and defensive. How can he consider this? Is there any material I can present to him that explains this condition in a way suitable for him? Thanks so much if you can help . Title: Re: How can I approach my husband that I think he has BPD? Post by: Five28 on December 17, 2016, 01:31:01 PM I've wondered the same thing. A week or so ago during one of her temper tantrums she was yelling and my adult son told her that she has been "terrorizing" this family all their lives. She immediately shut that argument down and said there was nothing wrong with her, and it was all my fault (as well as my son, who was the subject of the argument). It was then that I realized that if I approached her about being an undiagnosed BPD, she would turn it around and use it as another trigger to start a fight. Not worth it, at least in my case. Now if your husband was someone who might take this information and appreciate that you are trying to help him it might be a good thing.
Title: Re: How can I approach my husband that I think he has BPD? Post by: livednlearned on December 18, 2016, 07:52:31 AM You have good instincts :)
Your sense is that he would become utterly enraged and defensive. When he rages, what does he do? What's the dynamic in your relationship like? How do the two of you handle repair/recovery after a fight? LnL |