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I've alwaysed noticed something was off growing up.

But after realizing the breakup with my ex who had BPD and bipolar, doing my research, detaching and legally trying to protect my child.

Since having time to educate myself on my ex ive realized my mothers issues has a name. Everything I read up on is so similar to someone who's a narsasist.


What's the next step from here?

Hi DontKnow88:
Many of the tools used for a pwBPD can be helpful with an NPD person.  If you want to share details about your mom's behavior, others might be able to share some specific advice.

You might find the book and articles referenced below to be helpful:

BOOK: Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=203887.0

Understanding the Narcissistic Family
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=108970.0;all

Is Your Narcissist the "Vulnerable" or "Grandiose" Type?
www.BPDcentral.com/blog/?Is-Your-Narcissist-the-Vulnerable-or-Grandiose-Type-22

Why Do Narcissists and Borderlines Lie So Much? (http://www.BPDcentral.com/blog/?Why-Do-Narcissists-and-Borderlines-Lie-So-Much-24)

She's the Vulnerable narcissists.
She thinks everything should be done for her and when we say no she tries to guilt us and compares us (her children)
I mean something simple like checking her voicemail she think she's too posh to do it, she wants one of us to do it and wants us to write her texts for her if she wants to reply (for example).     

Whenever we get something she tries to get The same thing or better.

She is often mad at us because lately we are trying to make her do things for herself. But when we're outside in public she seems absolutely fake and ask like she isn't mad at us but I soon as the public is gone she goes right back to being mad/ignoring.

 Due to circumstances (Break up with my BPDex) I live with her and I have absolutely no privacy, never did growing up. I had to put a lock on my door and she threw the biggest fit ever (because she couldn't look through my personal items anymore)

When we tried to have normal or serious conversations with her it ALWAYS always ends up being about her, she change the conversation to something solely about her.

I am into poetry and just designing (if my poems or designs what about or for her she did not care what I made) but the same things she didn't care about in public when I got awards wear it she treated it like it was her accomplishment.


When my ex broke up with me and I return back home her first and  most after that reply was "good, I finally have a company, I was so lonely and now I have someon! And a baby, I get to have a baby living with me!" Mind you I was going through a horrible horrible break up at eight months pregnant and that was her reply.


I do everything when it comes to chores but I'm still "lazy" and " ungrateful "

As she gets older it gets worse I don't know if it's because I'm getting older and I've been learning to stand up for myself and not being a pushover (you know when you're a child and you try to obey all of your mothers rules, looking back now it was mostly manipulation) is just literally getting worse on her part I don't
know.

Growing up looking bad she's told us things that she should probably tell her sister or another adult that she trusts.

Growing up I couldn't have friends because she wanted me around. Every time I got invited to a sleepover or after school program that is not educational she always kilted me to stay home. Her reasons is always something about her and never about me.

She's admitted to having anxiety issues.

Other than that I can't really explain it but to me she's really fake In public.