Title: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: darktriadmorbid on December 21, 2016, 04:34:35 AM 1. Divorced family, father remarried went away. Hates his new wife.
2. Tattoos piercings 3. Self harms and showed me bandages during sex 4. Legit barked during sex woof woof 5. Childlike conversations and pranks like scaring by barking or drawing on faces 6. Accepted flowers from some online foreigner stranger she never met 7. Invited him to stay over infront of me 8. Mother seems like an alcoholic with a boyfriend 9. Lied about having needles and blades 10. Said she's comfortable around dead people 11. Scratched herself when we argued once 12. Told me her tattoo artist is older but good looking. He drew on her privates 13. Lots of ex boyfriends, tales of abuse by some which seem like lies 14. Still in contact with multiple guys, exes, interests etc 15. Took me to a war cemetery for a date 16. Talks about weird phobias in cars or water, might be sharks in pools etc 17. No long term female friend or bunch of female friends 18. Says girls are a drama 19. Gets along well with guys and seems pissed when they get committed 20. Really messed up divorce with spying and playing as pawns happened Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: Keef on December 21, 2016, 04:58:08 AM Hi darktriadmorbid,
Noone except for a professional can say whether this person suffers from BPD or not. I'd however advice you to be careful if you're not comfortable around this kind of behaviour. It sounds to me like you are signing up for drama. BPD, I couldn't say. Red flags, definitely! Best Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: Naughty Nibbler on December 21, 2016, 07:06:32 AM BPD or BPD traits? Exciting or bizarre?
Embrace it or run. Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: once removed on December 21, 2016, 07:50:53 AM hi darktriadmorbid, and *welcome*
as keef mentions, we arent professionals here, but we all have experience with hurtful behaviors, and youre in good company to discuss your relationship, how it affected you, and how your detachment is going. its quite a list, would you like to share more? when did you break up? Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: Keef on December 21, 2016, 08:12:35 AM its quite a list, would you like to share more? when did you break up? I agree with once removed, quite a list. darktriadmorbid, I got the impression that you were still in the relationship but then again you wouldn't be on this particular part of the board. Could you tell us more... ? Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: darktriadmorbid on December 21, 2016, 12:10:35 PM hi darktriadmorbid, and *welcome* Thank you once removed, as keef mentions, we arent professionals here, but we all have experience with hurtful behaviors, and youre in good company to discuss your relationship, how it affected you, and how your detachment is going. its quite a list, would you like to share more? when did you break up? I'd just like to say that I got out of it in a couple of months with no social financial or permanent loss. Cant say I came out emotionally unscathed though. Midway of the relationship I got to know about daddy issues and effects of abandoning father and got on my toes. After her stories didn't add up, her lies kept getting mounted along with self harm and childish behaviour. Jumped out before the frog got boiled. Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: enlighten me on December 21, 2016, 12:19:55 PM I know theyre on about removing HPD but have you looked at it? She sounds a lot like my exgf who has strong HPD traits.
Title: Re: Some red flags. Is this BPD or I'm overthinking ? Post by: darktriadmorbid on December 22, 2016, 01:33:22 PM I know theyre on about removing HPD but have you looked at it? She sounds a lot like my exgf who has strong HPD traits. I think these pds overlap so it doesn't matter whether she's either of them.I'm just thankful I got out without legal financial or social repercussions. They can cry victim and put you in any sort of situation to transfer blame. Emotionally it's taken a toll on me and I'm just trying to verify if she was BPD. I know my own mistakes of not setting boundaries in the relationship. |