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Well it's getting there, after five months with my replacement they are going to marry (in 1.5 years lol). That didn't bother me at all, it confirmed what I've been thinking about her. But now she is defending him (the guy that sabotaged the r/s of his best friend to be with this girl, sleeping with her) to the point she is painting me black in front of friends, telling them stories (I don't even want to know). She is angry that she and her new victim aren't welcome anymore. I've been adamant in maintaining N/C to the point that I've missed social gatherings with friends because they would be there.

Luckily they have been supportive and told her immediately that this kind of behavior is not tolerated. But still, I'm afraid what will happen next now that she has been told off by them. Will she push on and escalate things further?

I must say, these forums have been helpful. I've been expecting something like this for quite some time and it doesn't hurt as much knowing where it all comes from. Although it's still hurtful she is with that a'hole now that it is Christmas with a few spineless individuals (former friends) while I'm home alone probably telling them a lot of lies in the process. It would have been so much easier if she slept with a complete stranger, I would have gotten rid of her that way, now she is still way too close.

Ah well.

Hey Anon,  it's good to see you express how you are feeling. I've had similar feelings and have had to pull back and make sure I'm not expressing them as reactions to others.

Wow that is rough.  I'm wishing you all the strength and serenity to get passed this.  My advice would be to just continue to be the best you can be. Work on you. Be proactive, keep busy, and eventually people will see her true colors. That includes your friend who's probably in the f.o.g.  Be patient. Treat yourself well, and you will come out of this as a better person.