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Title: Feeling accomplished Post by: Aiming4Kindness on December 28, 2016, 10:51:12 AM For the past few days, when my BPD partner lashed out, I just stayed silent instead of engaging in a fight and ruining several hours / days. And when she was having a moment that led her to grab our baby from me, instead of resisting, I just smiled at my baby to let her know that everything is ok. I'm not going to let her be in the middle of this.
I decided that since I can't be heard during these moments, it's not even worth trying. Sad, but telling myself that being heard isn't Priority #1 makes the process easier as I create plan to detach. Title: Re: Feeling accomplished Post by: Naughty Nibbler on December 29, 2016, 01:51:01 PM Hi Aiming4Kindness:
I like your alias |iiii Quote from: Aiming4Kindness I decided that since I can't be heard during these moments, it's not even worth trying. Sad, but telling myself that being heard isn't Priority #1 makes the process easier as I create plan to detach. Sounds like you used a good strategy to avoid an argument and to do what was best for the baby. A wise choice for both you and the baby. |iiii Title: Re: Feeling accomplished Post by: heartandwhole on December 30, 2016, 04:35:41 AM being heard isn't Priority #1 makes the process easier as I create plan to detach. Aiming, I think you are showing great maturity here. And I commend you for making a plan before you take action. |iiii How far have you gotten in your plan? heartandwhole |