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Title: Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered? Post by: michel71 on December 28, 2016, 01:24:33 PM I do. I have to remind myself that she does not process things like I would. I forget that she sees the relationship through a completely different lens.
I constantly have to remind myself of that especially on an emotional day like today when she is moving out. I come back to this BOARD again and again to remain centered. I am out of town so thank God I don't have to watch it unfold in front of my eyes. At least that is a blessing. Reaching out for support today. Just need to get through it and stay in reality. Title: Re: Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered? Post by: ShadowA on December 28, 2016, 01:30:49 PM I actually wrote this very topic a while back.
I tend to forget whenever we are together. However when things don't work out, I end up remembering. I think I forget because I have false fantasies and hopes that it'll be better the next time around. Title: Re: Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered? Post by: oshinko maki on December 28, 2016, 01:35:45 PM I am able to keep it in mind pretty consistently now, but years ago I would be surprised frequently, particularly at the lying and paranoid reactions.
Title: Re: Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered? Post by: vortex of confusion on December 28, 2016, 01:46:25 PM Yep, I forget a lot, especially after he has a good day with the kids.
Hang in there! Whenever I momentarily forget and try to relate to him normally, it doesn't take long for him to say or do something to remind me that he doesn't not see things like a normal person does. Title: Re: Does anybody tend to "forget" that our partners are disordered? Post by: ortac77 on December 28, 2016, 02:17:29 PM i try to forget, but am beginning to realise that things are never normal and never can be normal. He has just apologised for ruining my birthday, and yes I know it is his illness that does it and I am meant to be sympathetic, but no today I am angry and an apology is not going to wash - disordered or not it can make me disordered - I have emotions too so he can go to hell and if he wallows in guilt so be it - I am going out tomorrow and am determined to have a nice day on my own.
Out of sympathy today and just maybe for good |