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For me, background, ex is moving out this week.
She has moved a bunch of stuff already, her help quit because she is a bit of a hoarder. She wants me to help her move the rest.
I am okay with that.

She wants to be friends and she is constantly texting me stuff about moving.
 Like the last one was, what happened to the mirror in the bedroom? Where did you hide it?
Well I didn't hide it, I didn't touch it.
Then she responds with sorry, must have been my help then.
So then I ask her back, if you don't need both crock pots can I have one back? I assume your help just grabbed both and didn't realize what they are doing.
She says, I am not like that, I am not evil, stop thinking I am so evil.
Of course she doesn't ever say yes or will even bother to look and see if she has it.

Even with crap like that all I can think today is, why did you do this to me? Why did you divorce me? We had such an amazing future. Life was good enough.

Silly stupid stuff comes back as I look for reasons to help me remember I am better off with her gone.
Like one morning she calls me on her way to work and swears that someone stole gas out of her car.
She parked on the hill over night, I said give it a few minutes and see if it comes back up after you drive some.
Nope, she was convinced her gas was stolen and I had to run out and buy locking gas caps for all of the vehicles. Of course they never got put on and we never had that problem again.
She could not even attempt to listen to my suggestion. She already had her mind made up that she was right and she was ready to argue it until the end of time.

So we all know we are better off, when we still have to have contact, how do we navigate conversation with someone who says they don't hate you, but they have no respect, or trust in anything you say?