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Title: Hello and intro Post by: Chthonia on January 03, 2017, 08:01:42 PM Hi. I have been in a very tumultuous relationship with a man who is now my husband. I have felt in times that I am losing mind because his mood swings, projection and games and manipulation are so unpredictable. When he slips into a certain emotional space he is so cruel and has a difficult ti,e taking responsibility for his destructive and irresponsible actions. In love him very much and he also has many wonderful qualities. He is Jekyl/Hyde. I thought he was a narcissist but now believe his diagnosis is borderline. I don't want to leave him. He goes down the drain when I do. Any comments or sharing would be appreciated about how to make improvements. We start counseling Ina week. He would never admit to having anything wrong with him.
Title: Re: Hello and intro Post by: Tattered Heart on January 04, 2017, 07:43:36 AM Welcome. You've come to a good place. I would highly suggest starting with the lessons on the right hand side of the screen. They will help you learn more about BPD and how to help yourself cope with the daily stresses of living with someone with BPD.
Narcissism and BPD have a lot of the same characteristics. I find that listening to and learning about how to deal with a narcissist help me quite a bit in handling issues with my uBPDh. Like narcissists, pwBPD tend to be very self focused, get upset over littlest slights, paint other people black, triangulate, manipulate, use verbal and sometimes physical abuse, and intimidate. Many of the techniuqes in handling a pwBPD are the same that you would handle someone with NPD. Hope you can find the support that you need here. |