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Title: Tried to stick by limits but he blocked me Post by: lara10 on January 04, 2017, 08:03:44 PM I have tried to set the limits and he tried after one week to apologize once but i thought it wasn't enough, but i told him that I do love him still. He expected me to speak to him the next day and act completley fine, but I really couldn't I was so fed up. I woke up today to find myself blocked from everywhere. Instead of him trying to apologize again or try harder, he just blocked me from everywhere because I stood by limits. What can I do now? Please I need advice. And is he going to return again or it will stay like this for good since now he feels like his pride has been really shaken?
Title: Re: Tried to stick by limits but he blocked me Post by: drained1996 on January 05, 2017, 12:08:59 AM Hi Lara10,
Sorry to hear about your difficult situation. I know what it feels like to be cut off by someone I loved. It does not feel good. Like you I set some boundaries, she crossed them and I enforced them. I was faced with the same choices: 1. Keep my boundaries until they were respected 2. Allow her to cross my boundaries and acquiesce to her needs and wants and ignore my well being We have boundaries for self protection. For our mental, emotional and physical well being. You may assess yours and see if there is any room for movement... .not knowing the circumstances I have no idea... .but they must have existed for some reason. I hope that helps you in some way... .feel free to share more on the situation. We are here. Title: Re: Tried to stick by limits but he blocked me Post by: once removed on January 05, 2017, 12:18:12 AM hey lara10, i want to join drained1996 and say *welcome*
i can imagine the anxiety you must be feeling at the moment. you may have heard that consistent boundaries are especially important in a relationship with someone with BPD, and then you get this reaction, and wonder where you went wrong. And is he going to return again or it will stay like this for good since now he feels like his pride has been really shaken? its hard to say. is this your first breakup? a more in depth look at the history of your relationship may tell us a lot, and help us better support you in this situation. you say hes blocked you everywhere - do you have any means of contacting him? |