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Title: uBPDw refuses to wear her wedding band and it bothers me Post by: michel71 on January 06, 2017, 10:23:34 PM Hi all. UBPDw refuses to wear her wedding band ( actually bands... .there are three linking). We are still married. I still wear mine. Wife still wants to work on 'us' but is mad at me about emails she found so she is now refusing to wear them. And she refuses to say she loves me and won't text hearts like she used to.
I know it probably shouldn't bother me especially since we are heading towards formal separation or divorce but it feels wrong. I will wear my ring until I am no longer married, at which point I will buy myself another band... yeah, you heard me right... .another band to remind me to LOVE MYSELF FIRST. By not wearing her ring I see here as either giving up on us or punishing me. Maybe both. But I don't understand this in light of her saying that she wants to work on 'us'. Is she playing me? Using me? Trying to control me? And why the heck does it matter to me so much? Title: Re: uBPDw refuses to wear her wedding band and it bothers me Post by: heartandwhole on January 08, 2017, 04:45:00 AM And why the heck does it matter to me so much? Great question, michel71. Separating from someone you love can be extremely difficult. Are you feeling conflicted about it? |