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Title: Measurements for progress
Post by: Borderlinestar on January 09, 2017, 08:06:49 PM
Are there any online resources i could read to measure my own progress of recovery as a borderline. My therapist states late recovery. No it must be the beginning. I understand that i did not go through the developmental processes as outlined in the I hate you dont leave me. I am just interested in learning more. Am i going to go through each stage in order. I have felt the deepest core of pain and abandonment. It lastest seven days. Rebirthing. After 3 years with a clinical therapist and many more before this. Doing distress tolerernce today. It has only been a couple of weeks since i removed myself from my untreated family of origin as i have mentioned. It gets intense and grief and abandonment is strange, raw, and honest. But i remain friend to myself and compassionate and loving to my husband and others. Its nice to still be able to care for myself and others. Like doing yoga and making healthy lunch for my husband and i in the middle of this.  How can i be an adult and develop in these processes?


Title: Re: Measurements for progress
Post by: Naughty Nibbler on January 09, 2017, 09:06:07 PM
Hi Borderlinestar:

What type of cell phone do you use?  I recently changed phone platforms to Android and loaded various apps.  I found one app. called Daylio.  It was free. and you can track your daily moods, along with activities. You could load your custom activities (perhaps some DBT skills).  It will display charts and graphs and relate your moods with specific activities.  I'm thinking there are similar apps for Iphone.  If you have a Windows phone, you might have a problem finding an app.


The link below leads to a free online tracking system
https://abctracker.anxiety.org/

A couple of mindfulness exercises appear at the links below:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0Lo5tUXkVI

https://www.thehappinesstrap.com/upimages/Informal_Mindfulness_Exercises.pdf



Title: Re: Measurements for progress
Post by: Borderlinestar on January 09, 2017, 09:44:56 PM
Thank you. I will try this. I am doing a DBT sheet daily and that helps.