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Title: My wife probably has BPD Post by: Edwardm on January 14, 2017, 09:11:43 PM I was complaining to my doctor about my wife´s strange behaviour, that is affecting me. She suggested me to read Stop Walking on Eggshells (translated to Portuguese) - and yes, it explains everything I was suspecting. For me the name borderline disorder is new, but it is obvious there is a mental disorder. At this point (1/3 of the book) I started to be calmer because I can understand what is happening- but I still don´t know what to do - probably when I finish the book I will. Actually I don´t know if someday she will become a little bit better or I´ll need to survive with this. Anyway, I´m happy to find this community. Thanks to all.
Title: Re: My wife probably has BPD Post by: livednlearned on January 15, 2017, 09:27:12 AM Hi Edwardm,
Welcome and hello :) What are some of the strange behaviors? People here can probably relate! How do you respond? We're here to walk with you as you sort out this complicated mental illness. LnL Title: Re: My wife probably has BPD Post by: Five28 on January 16, 2017, 02:31:42 PM "Actually I don´t know if someday she will become a little bit better or I´ll need to survive with this."
I don't believe this is something that will ever go away or get better. You're in it for the long haul. You'll either learn to deal with it, or you'll decide you've had enough and leave. Title: Re: My wife probably has BPD Post by: ArleighBurke on January 16, 2017, 03:32:30 PM It probably won't get any better. However, you can learn to deal with it. You can learn to stop fueling it. You can learn to distance yourself (emotionally) somewhat - to make sure you can survive.
I have known about BPD for the past 3yrs with my wife of 17yrs. I made the mistake of thinking that if I learn all about BPD and do the tecnhiques then we can have a "normal" life. No. She will always be her. She will always act out. But now it doesn't rock me like before. I can stand the storm, then I can get on with life with no regrets, no shame, no confusion. There is a lot of advice and techniques on this site. Welcome! Title: Re: My wife probably has BPD Post by: Mustbeabetterway on January 17, 2017, 03:14:45 PM Hi Edwardm and welcome! I am glad you found this site. If your significant other has some qualities that make you feel as if you are walking on eggshells, then there is much help to be found here.
I have been married to my husband for over 30 years. Finally, I found out about BPD. Through reading about what has been helpful to others and practicing communication techniques, etc. I have discovered ways to bring more peace into my life. Like ArleighBurke expressed so well, you can learn ways to deal with the issues and stop fueling them. Most importantly, you cannot change your partner, you only really have control over yourself. As you begin to practice positive habits, you can make a better life for yourself. Welcome! We look forward to hearing more from you! Mustbeabetterway |