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Title: Partner with BPD Post by: Frfr on January 16, 2017, 09:07:37 AM Confused , what to do when all you do is fighting
i have a partner with BPD. We have a huge problem as in him not accepting my past. We were together for some years but ended our relation , because of his behaviour. Now started over again but in the time we were not together for a year , had an other short relationship. Now all i hear is how bad i am. I get all different kind of names. There's not a day without going into an argument. Every day i end up crying and wonder how i got into this mess. I cant leave because we are together for so long, and i dont want to get divorced again. I want this to work but nothing i do seems right. When i blame him for something it takes secondes for him too turn everything around and call me names. I just want too be happy. We will live together soon as we planned living together, but it feels like im suffocating. I just want to find a way too... deal with him Title: Re: Partner with BPD Post by: Mutt on January 16, 2017, 10:35:51 AM Hi frfr,
I'm sorry that you're going through this I can see how distressing that would feel when we face conflict every day. I've been there and it can get better. You're not alone. I'd like to give you a link to a short video. What are your thoughts? Do you think that it's something that you can do? A 3 Minute Lesson on Ending Conflict (https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict) |