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Title: So this happened tonight... Post by: Shedd on January 19, 2017, 12:40:37 AM Overheard the girl my ex has been flirting with tonight say if she is going to date someone she wants her to be a lesbian! Which concludes that her and my ex are not dating, but I think they're at least sleeping together.
I'm pretty sure the conversation went something like this, whisper: "Why don't you just date (my ex)" Reply, "If I am going to date a girl I want to date a lesbian." I strangely feel ok right now about it all. I'm a little hurt they would talk about her in front of me. I am pretty sure this girl knows I am her ex I mean come on. But I am also feeling good because I am not getting too upset about it which means I am more over her, right? I've been applying to new jobs because I need to cut this tie with her too. I have a job interview on tuea. I'm hoping it leads to a new job! If you could send good vibes my way that would be wonderful! Title: Re: So this happened tonight... Post by: gotbushels on January 20, 2017, 08:04:33 AM Hi Shedd
It makes sense to feel hurt when people talk about an ex partner dating someone in a conversation, especially after a breakup. It didn't work between two people, and it makes sense to feel some sense loss. When one person is thought of to be dating a later, and different person, that sense of loss can feel more real. If you're not getting too upset over it--yes I do think that can be seen as a indication of detachment. Or being "over her". When we have successfully detached from a relationship, it may feel better because we can experience that life is okay or better in this state. It does seem to have a comforting effect. I hope things go well for your interview. :) |