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Hello all, this is my first post.  My husband of 15 years has severe BPD.  While I can handle most of the symptoms, the one I can't, or won't any longer is him trying to find self-worth in other women.  He has begged again for one more chance.  He is in counseling, I'm in counseling, I've read every book out there practically, I joined a support group, and I recently attended a three-day workshop for families.  What I'm looking for is other people in 'chosen' relationships like me, and especially those with a male borderline, to talk to and commiserate with. 

Hi Who Knew,

I just wanted to drop in and welcome you.  Sorry for the circumstances that bring you here, but I'm glad you have found this place.  I'm sure someone that has been or is in your shoes will pop in soon. 
Do you all have any kids?

Hello there! Welcome! I haven't overcome an experience like this yet, but I am currently in a similar situation as you. For  the past month my partner and I have been working towards a goal of making our relationship stable.
My partner used cheating as a major outlet for his emotional needs for the majority of our relationship. I caught him several times and each time he told me that he would never see the woman again, a few months would go by and I would catch him back in the habit. Eventually it became too much for me and I had him move out of our home. Despite this, we still maintain communication, go to counseling, and visit each other every once in a while. We do this because we have hopes that a well-functioning relationship between us isn't impossible.
Despite his actions that have hurt me time and time again, I still have hope and love for him. Neither of us wanted the separation, but I believe it was necessary for us in order to start rebuilding our relationship again.

How is the support group going? Have you or your husband reached any goals in counseling?