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Title: Not sure what to do after a 15 year marriage Post by: jada on January 29, 2017, 01:56:52 AM I'm not sure what to do with this situation. My husband of 15 years (second marriage) is very difficult to be with. Although I'm not a clinician, he certainly seems to fix the profile of a BPD. We've been through therapy over the years, but nothing seems to work. I think we've both given up on that. The constant anger over the smallest things makes me feel like I have to watch everything that I say and do. Today, he told me that, "... .if you can just stop bringing up topics that make me upset, then we can have peace." I've thought a lot over the years about getting out of this marriage, but I never seem to be able to do it. There is a lot at stake. I have no one to talk to about this. Looking for support and guidance.
Title: Re: Not sure what to do after a 15 year marriage Post by: heartandwhole on January 30, 2017, 07:34:27 AM Hi jada,
*welcome* I'm sorry things are difficult in your relationship right now. Constant anger is really hard to take over time. It sounds like you are walking on eggshells in order to keep the peace, which can take a toll. You are not alone—so many of the members here can relate to what you are going through. There is hope for things to get better. The site has tons of tools and resources that can help. What kind of things does he get angry about? Here is an article that you may find helpful in managing the frequent conflict: Ending Conflict (https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict) Please continue to post. It really helps to share your experiences with others. We're here to support you. heartandwhole |