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Title: How to answer? Post by: Flower1 on October 27, 2024, 05:52:43 PM I had a conversation that he had broken an object...I bounced back by talking about another aspect of the object in question but I didn't ask how that happened? I ask if I did the right thing...? Should I have said these things happen it's not serious it can be fixed? thanks you
Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: Granite Chief on November 02, 2024, 09:53:40 PM I think you are playing the guessing game we all play. You did what you thought was right so I would stick with that.
Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: Flower1 on November 03, 2024, 04:53:53 PM thank you for your response. he hasn't given me a response since this message. what a pity!
Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: Granite Chief on November 03, 2024, 09:58:25 PM If he gives you a response he is admitting guilt. It is hard for people with BPD to do this because of their black and white thinking. At least this is my experience because that makes them all bad. Of course this is not true.
Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: Flower1 on November 04, 2024, 04:00:39 PM yes. However, what surprises me is that I thought that this disorder could be cured... when we read articles on the subject... we suggest that the disorder is well treatable... and when we read the stories on the forum it seems very difficult
Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: kells76 on November 04, 2024, 04:59:33 PM There may be a self-selective aspect to who comes here and sticks around, and that can impact the picture of BPD recovery we have.
It might be kind of like phone call surveys: the survey results aren't really applicable to all people, because the first, tacit, question of the survey is actually: are you the kind of person who answers a telephone survey. So the results only apply to the subgroup of people who like doing phone surveys. It's not "98% of all people love eating potatoes", it's actually "98% of people who love doing phone surveys also love eating potatoes". If the pwBPD in your life is invested in healing, and is committed to meaningful, long-term therapy, then you probably won't be banging your head against the wall in frustration the same way as most people here (I think most members here have a pwBPD who is not healing and is not in treatment). So, I don't think the existence of BPDfamily.com suggests that BPD is not well treatable, I think it's just pulling from a different set of nons, if that makes sense. Maybe the way to say this I thought that this disorder could be cured... when we read articles on the subject... we suggest that the disorder is well treatable... and when we read the stories on the forum it seems very difficult could be: "BPD is well treatable in persons with BPD who actively seek treatment". I suspect that for many members here, their pwBPD isn't actively seeking/engaged in treatment... hence why we all need support. Always an interesting point to bring up! Title: Re: How to answer? Post by: Flower1 on November 05, 2024, 05:36:44 PM Thanks for your response Kells! You are right.. intensive therapy can certainly help !
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