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Title: No Contact and still lovin it! (14 years later) Post by: Greg on November 27, 2024, 07:34:17 PM Hi everyone,
I don't post here very often (in fact, so many of my old posts were deleted from old timey expiration!) but Ithought I'd jump in to lend my experience as a certain day of gloom and doom approaches... I went NC with momster over 14 years ago, and not a day goes by that I regret that decision. Seriously. The constant choas, hot/cold mood swings, the "I hate you don't leave me" insanity of it all...I left it all far, far behind. I don't miss the crazy phone calls to police, the screaming/sobbing (screambing?), the victim-playing, the whirlwind of never knowing what I was gonna get from one day to the next. The gaslighting and psychological abuse has taken years to heal from. I've been slowly but surely rebuilding my shattered self esteem. A lot of people have high anxiety this time of year. Aside from seasonal weather issues and some PTSD, I no longer dread it like I used to. For so many years I would be hurting myself, drinking alone or other behaviors. Nowadays, I make art, cook a nice soup, play some video games. Now that I am No Contact, I get to decide what these days mean to me. I get to be kind to myself and go to events if I want or (usually) have a staycation to avoid the drama-vibes. My neighbor is gonna save leftover pie for me :) That's about as close as I get to the family drama! Title: Re: No Contact and still lovin it! (14 years later) Post by: Teabunny on December 03, 2024, 12:31:59 PM Congrats Greg on 14 years!!
I'm glad you found a way to heal and move forward along a healthier path that seems to work well for you! Having just gone NC with my parents this autumn, it's heartening to know your story and it does make a difference, thank you for sharing! On the "Coming Home" podcast I think I remember hearing that about 87% of adult children enjoy better health / happiness when they go no contact with their parents. Seems to be true in my case, too. |