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Title: Dealing with their family members Post by: Familystone on December 16, 2024, 02:13:57 PM Hi
My question is around how to deal with my ex’s family members who are contacting me. For context my ex partner walked out nearly a month ago on me, our four month old baby and my daughter by another relationship. Just suddenly left. Massive discard came out of the blue. I’ve contacted legal representation and they have said I need to ignore my ex for now. And they will send me a letter in due course. He’s still emailing me about our son which I just ignore. I am being contacted by my ex’s mother about wishing to send a Christmas present to my daughter. There is no blood relation. They met once as she lives in the States and don’t really Know each other. Is this normal? She’s also not asked me how I am or mentioned her actual grandson (the baby). Should I be wary of her contacting me and are there such things like flying monkeys with BPD like with NPD? Title: Re: Dealing with their family members Post by: zachira on December 16, 2024, 02:20:50 PM The flying monkeys are the worst. Do not provide any information about your situation to his family members or people you can't trust.
Title: Re: Dealing with their family members Post by: Familystone on December 16, 2024, 10:37:42 PM Thank you for your insight. I wondered as much… and thought her email was very odd. And likely a manipulation. As I’m not replying to her son’s emails.
Title: Re: Dealing with their family members Post by: SinisterComplex on December 17, 2024, 01:34:17 AM Hi My question is around how to deal with my ex’s family members who are contacting me. For context my ex partner walked out nearly a month ago on me, our four month old baby and my daughter by another relationship. Just suddenly left. Massive discard came out of the blue. I’ve contacted legal representation and they have said I need to ignore my ex for now. And they will send me a letter in due course. He’s still emailing me about our son which I just ignore. I am being contacted by my ex’s mother about wishing to send a Christmas present to my daughter. There is no blood relation. They met once as she lives in the States and don’t really Know each other. Is this normal? She’s also not asked me how I am or mentioned her actual grandson (the baby). Should I be wary of her contacting me and are there such things like flying monkeys with BPD like with NPD? As has been said...your best course of action is to worry about you and the kids and be civil but provide no information beyond what is required. You are in protect mod now. It sucks, but you really do not want to open yourself up to anything unintentional now. Now it is a situation of where you will have to let a legal process carry out and once that is over well then how you decide to proceed is strictly up to you. Please be kind to you and please take care of yourself. Cheers and Best Wishes! -SC- Title: Re: Dealing with their family members Post by: Notwendy on December 17, 2024, 05:54:07 AM Should I be wary of her contacting me and are there such things like flying monkeys with BPD like with NPD? Yes, there is, and I think your lawyer is giving you good advice about ignoring them. The Christmas gift may be a Trojan Horse. |