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Title: Impending Breakup Post by: CarolAnne82 on February 13, 2025, 12:53:42 PM I have to break up with my BPD partner today. She is aggressive, threatening, and will not respect my boundaries. We recently had a disagreement about our relationship timeline (she wants to get married ASAP and I do not). She is unable to accept my answer and frequently blows up at me, screaming, throwing things at and around me, and then breaking down and flipping to tears suddenly, saying if I leave she will kill herself. I am constantly worried about her wellbeing but know it is time to end the relationship because she is unable to respect me wanting to wait to be married. I am heartbroken as I love her dearly but I am unable to continue getting blown up at and I feel like I am not able to disagree on anything without her losing it on me. This has been over a year of this struggle- her taking out any of her upset at me and me trying to stay calm and help her regulate. I just can't do it anymore.
Any advice on how to initiate a breakup is welcome. I know it will be bad but if there is any way to go about it in the kindest and most thoughtful way possible it would be appreciated. Am I doing the right thing? Am I insensitive or not strong enough? Thank you for any comments or help |