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Title: Does this have chance of lasting? Post by: tomas125cz on March 02, 2025, 02:13:42 PM I have a friend with BPD who has been in a relationship for about 9–10 weeks now. The relationship moved really fast—she and her boyfriend are already planning to move in together in about 3 weeks, and they’ve been trying to have a baby for the past 2 months.
However, there have already been major red flags in the relationship: Her boyfriend lied to her for 2 months about blocking his ex. When she found out, he first told her it was an "unknown number," then changed his story and said he "unblocked her after some time" (even though he never blocked her in the first place). He refused to show her their messages when she confronted him. He told her he wants her to "live only for him." He was rating other girls’ bodies on Discord, and when I asked her if she was okay with it, she ignored the question and changed the subject. She was devastated when she found out he lied and wanted to leave him, but she forgave him two days later. She told me that if he slept with his ex, she would be mad but still forgive him. She says they "never argue", but when she found out his ex called him, they actually fought. She has a medical condition that gives her only a 5% chance of carrying a pregnancy to term. She already got pregnant once during this relationship and miscarried, but they are still actively trying for a baby. She claims that if she sees him talking to his ex after they move in, she will break up with him, even if she was 7 months pregnant My Questions: 1️⃣ Do you think this relationship will last? If so, for how long? 2️⃣ Is this a typical BPD relationship pattern? 3️⃣ What do you think will be the breaking point for her? 4️⃣ Could moving in together actually be what makes the relationship fall apart? 5️⃣ I've heard that BPD relationships often last around 3 months—do you think this will be the case for her relationship as well? Title: Re: Does this have chance of lasting? Post by: once removed on March 04, 2025, 07:34:32 AM Excerpt My friend blocked me for four days because I told her that trying for a baby and moving in with a guy she’s been dating for only three months (and has known for four) is a bad idea. Then, on Friday, she unblocked me and wished me a happy Valentine’s Day. She has known for over a year that I have feelings for her, and she has even told me multiple times that we would be together when I’m older. are you asking because youre hoping that if they break up, it will finally be your turn? |