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Title: They will treat as nothing if you givem them control? Post by: noideaforname on February 09, 2017, 03:31:47 PM If you try to get back together and open your feelings they feel power and just don't care for you?
They will only note you again when you show that you don't care? Title: Re: They will treat as nothing if you givem them control? Post by: Meili on February 09, 2017, 04:25:53 PM If I understand your questions correctly, not necessarily.
A lot of what happens depends as much on what the non does and allows as it does the pwBPD. It takes two to fight. If the non chooses to not engage in a fight, there can be no fight. It can depend on how the non chooses to show that he/she cares also. When I first got here, I thought that it was good that I showed how much I cared for my x by doing everything for her so that she wouldn't feel stressed and would be happy. That was the wrong thing to do. I had to learn to show her that I cared in a different way; one that was not damaging to me and did not allow her to use it against me. Also, it isn't about showing them that you don't care, it's about setting your boundaries to protect yourself and your core values. That isn't about them at all, it's about us. Does that make sense? Title: Re: They will treat as nothing if you givem them control? Post by: noideaforname on February 09, 2017, 05:01:08 PM but i mean like... .
after my ex painted me black... .everytime i tried to get back together everything i said was used against me saying that i should have done those things while we were together. no matter what i said... .as long as showed feelings she was showing nothing and saying she couldn't do anything because she has no feelings for me. |