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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: Manilow on March 05, 2025, 09:44:28 AM



Title: Think l have lost my daughter
Post by: Manilow on March 05, 2025, 09:44:28 AM
In November my 29 yr old daughter got engaged and changed. Shortly after she gave up her good job and then flew into a rage and walked out of her family life and not been in touch since. I have sent messages requesting contact but no replies, not sure what to do next


Title: Re: Think l have lost my daughter
Post by: Pook075 on March 05, 2025, 08:46:27 PM
Hello and welcome to the family!  I'm sorry your daughter has disappeared and won't respond to your messages.  Do you suspect that she has BPD?  Or has she been diagnosed?  Please tell us a little bit more of your relationship in recent years.

In terms of what to do now, there's not a lot you can do.  She's a married adult and making her own life decisions.  Maybe she's so all-in on the marriage, family doesn't feel as important right now.  Maybe she's super busy.  It isn't helpful to speculate on her motivations since we just don't know.

Was there a falling out at some point?  Or a history of withdrawing?