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Title: Struggling sometimes Post by: Flyakite on March 25, 2025, 12:11:56 PM I struggle in my current relationship, I was diagnosed and so was my partner, but as soon as it goes okay I make reasons for it to be ruined for it to end I find fault with him or his child or our situation to end it. And I believe what I'm saying till I've calmed down n then I feel horrible coz I want to b with him but I feel like I can't. Like if we have a lovely day together and things go well and I feel something even sex I cry wen it feels nice I will then want him to get away from me and I will find every reason to destroy us the next day or by time I get home. What can I do?
Title: Re: Struggling sometimes Post by: kells76 on March 25, 2025, 01:40:32 PM Hello Flyakite and welcome to the group :hi:
You are not alone in having struggles in your current relationship; many members here do, too. It's good that you're asking for some help and support in figuring out what you can do to make things better |iiii This site is designed for working on a relationship with a person with BPD. Am I reading your post correctly, that both you and your partner have been diagnosed with BPD? While the site is not designed to support pwBPD (persons with BPD) directly -- for example, we don't focus on DBT skills practice -- we do support anyone, regardless of diagnosis, in a relationship with a pwBPD. So, you are more than welcome to join here, as long as that focus (on relationship and communication skills) is workable. A very good skill to start practicing on is mindfulness and WiseMind (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=64749.0), which can help us slow down our instinctive but non-effective responses. If you decide that this site might not be a good fit, that's OK too -- there are some great groups out there that focus more on DBT skills and effective emotional management. For example, Emotions Matter (https://emotionsmatterbpd.org/) offers online peer support groups, and as far as I can tell, the groups are free and you can attend 3 times per month. (I have not attended so cannot speak to the groups personally) No matter what you decide, we wish you and your partner health, hope, and positivity :heart: |