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Title: Need help Post by: Corey_lasvegas on April 28, 2025, 12:00:58 PM I’ve been with a woman with BPD for 4.5 years and married for 1. I’m really thinking of filing for divorce /leaving .
The lack of affection ( it’s like pulling teeth to get even a quick peck ) The lack of intimacy ( not kidding , once in the last 4-5 months ) The compulsive spending ( thereby I have to over tend myself financially , can’t save money. She blows her checks within days ) The constant sleeping The poor choice in friends who take advantage of her Refusing to consistently take her meds Labeling me as “ vanilla “ sexually ( or maybe she’s shared her previous trauma and I’m trying to be sensitive:not cause her to have flashbacks ) Why the hell am I sticking around ???? Im obviously not wanted here . She’s just interested in me paying the bills , and doesn’t give a PLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) if I’m happy Title: Re: Need help Post by: stevemcduck on April 28, 2025, 02:38:01 PM what is making you stay? I think I would feel quite happy to move on in your situation, I was with mine for 5 years and it was bliss till the last day, that's what hurt me so much. do you feel she might change? have you tried to talk to her about it?
Title: Re: Need help Post by: Corey_lasvegas on May 05, 2025, 12:19:24 PM I’m honestly not sure . I’ve been here 2 months and I’m just extremely lonely , depressed and if I’m being honest ….ive got the suicide prevention hotline pinned to the top of my text threads because I constantly think she and everyone else want me gone .
Title: Re: Need help Post by: losthope1234 on May 07, 2025, 02:21:34 AM Hi..i am sorry you are going through such a hard time. Are you living separated currently? Like steve asked, what is preventing you from getting the divorce that you are looking for? are you emotionally attached to her deeply, or is it due to some legal reasons?
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