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 :hi:

My partner has been in a rut for like, two months? And they've been managing well, but recently they're acting very out of norm. Overly excited, rambling quickly, can't think properly, but they said they feel very good. I thought they were on drugs for a second before they reassured me they're not.

They said it's because they get highs every now and then. I'm really happy they're so ecstatic now, but also... they made an impulsive 500 dollar purchase in one night. They said they have enough money, and it's fine, but I'm getting a weird feeling about their state.

Can someone tell me I'm being irrational so I can just appreciate this high without guilt? Lolol.

(and if I'm not being irrational can I get advice to make sure nothing goes wrong)

Has your partner been diagnosed with any kind of mental health concern? Are they seeing a mental health professional?

A person with BPD can have "good times" and then difficult ones. From my own experience, the good times with a pwBPD are not the same as what you described. Someone who is acting euphoric, spending large amount of money, that are not caused by using drugs is concerning.

None of us here are able to make a diagnosis but the euphoric state, the spending, other behaviors- they have a lot of energy, the rambling, being "hypersexual" are seen in bipolar disorder.

Sometimes it's difficult to know if the condition is BPD or bipolar. Sometimes people have both diagnoses. One difference is that there is medicine that can treat bipolar.

Can you enjoy this without guilt? It's not wrong to appreciate the good times but your partner may be having a mental health crisis and need immediate help. They may also be damaging themselves financially. IMHO, the caring thing is to get them to a mental health assessement asap.

What you're describing is "manic behavior", which is a trait associated to bipolar.  My daughter has a dual diagnosis of BPD/bi-polar and I think her mom (my ex wife) would have the same diagnosis.

When someone is manic, everything is wonderful and they're impulsive, flirtatious, carefree, etc.  Every day is the best day ever!  And if this is what's happening, then you absolutely can just enjoy it...with a few warnings.  Make sure she's not putting herself in harm's way in terms of spending, driving, making new friends, etc.  She's not thinking clearly and it can be dangerous.

The opposite of manic is depression...which you said she was stuck in for a few months.  Part of that is chemicals produced in the brain, so this is a real thing.  Just know that even though she's way way "up" right now, what goes up must come down.  So be prepared for the coin to flip rather suddenly.