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Title: My daughter says we are dead for her Post by: Meena on October 29, 2025, 04:11:29 PM my daughter says we are dead for her ,what is that means legally Means for us .can we disown her on this type of abuse .what should i do to keep her out of my estate
Title: Re: My daughter says we are dead for her Post by: BPDstinks on October 30, 2025, 07:47:28 AM Hi! I am sorry to hear this....I know (really!) it is harsh and so hurtful! (unsure if it is BPD related...) my son has a daughter, I found out about my granddaughter when she was 14 months old (talk about hurtful (my son NEVER told me) he saw her a few times, up until she was 2 years old, he called me & said "this "father" thing is not working for me": I am going to terminate my rights; due to his lack of interest and the "baby mom" being so young (at the time she was 22 years old) I was very attached to (we nicknamed her) K; she practically lived with us; he said, I do not want you to see her anymore; I tried to rationalize with him; his last words were, if you continue this relationship, you are "dead to me"; well....fast forward, K is 9 years old, has 3 beautiful sisters and we are all just one family unit; I have heard from my son once, via a text (he wanted baby mom's phone number (selfishly, to try to get child support REDUCED, despite a great job) and bumping into him last Christmas Eve at a restaurant, where he came over & awkwardly said, Merry Christmas & left; I find it unbelievable that we (parents) give birth to children that can just TOSS parents aside; again, I am very sorry for YOU (I don't really have any advice :(
Title: Re: My daughter says we are dead for her Post by: Sancho on November 02, 2025, 05:52:32 PM Hi Meena
What you can do depends on the estate law where you live. Where I live there is a law called The Testator's Family Maintenance Act. What this means is that if I cut my DD out of my will, she has the right under this law to challenge my will. The law is based on the idea that your children are your children and it's your responsibility to support them in your will. It meant that a parent could not just leave to a 'favourite' child, or to leave out a child they might have a disagreement with. The parent couldn't use the 'I will cut you out of the will' threat to make a child conform to their wishes. BPD is pretty different of course. The abuse and 'you are dead to me' etc can be horrendous and wanting to cut all ties is very understandable. I think the best thing you can do is to discuss this with a lawyer who deals in estate law. If they specialise it is better I think than a general lawyer who is dealing with selling property and minor criminal matters at the same time. Let's know how you go. You may find that it is a simple matter under the legal system where you live. |