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Hi
My daughter has BPD since a teenager now an adult it’s been a very big struggle but I never stop trying to help her. My doctor suggested to read this book stop walking on eggshells 3rd edition and that’s how I found this site, the book has hep me understand BPD much better but knowing I can talk to people going through the same as me, cause it’s hard to talk to people that do not go through it  or understand BPD - Loving Mum

Hi Kells76
Thank you for your welcome to the BPD family
It has taken along time to get were I have gotten to help my daughter but it’s still a struggle
It just will be good to talk to people that understand and are going through the same thing
A mum can only do so much but I don’t stop trying
Now my daughter is 29 still lives at home with us 2 brothers and mum and dad plus now she has a two year old son my beautiful grandson as her relationship didn’t work out so she came back when she was pregnant so I have had my grandson at home with us since he was born
But for last few months her moods haven’t been good and I need to help myself more to be able to help her as I have always been her support person that try’s to make things better if I can so I am needing help for myself to get deal with it better everyday the book I read helps but I know I can do more as won’t stop trying
Loving Mum

Hello and welcome to the family- I have the same story with a 26 year old BPD daughter.  It's great that you want to continue to help, and in time you'll learn to do that more effectively.  There's a fine line between "helping" and "enabling", and that's been a tough lesson for all of us.  You'll get there though!