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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: lentil_soup66 on November 07, 2025, 11:21:55 AM



Title: New here...sad and exhausted
Post by: lentil_soup66 on November 07, 2025, 11:21:55 AM
I'm the mother of a 25 yr old trans son who has a number of diagnoses...ADHD/depression/anxiety/ASD as well as very probably BPD and a very active eating disorder. We live in a major city in Canada.

He lives at home with us. We are a longtime blended family with myself, my husband, my other son (23) and stepdaughter (21).

My husband and I are currently doing the Family Connections program, about halfway through. I'm learning a lot, my husband even more so. Even with that though, I am exhausted and burnt out, and have been for a long time. Right now my son with the issues is extremely hard to live with on all sorts of levels. I spend way too much time trying to get him help, doing paperwork to do with his disabilities etc. Right now I am working on getting him case management because I can't do this long term, I swear it is slowly killing me. And even though I do so much for him it feels like he can't stand me. I'm just especially sad and tired today. Learning a lot about how important validation is but I can't really validate him when he's not talking to me lol.

Anyhow I am glad to be here and looking forward to hopefully get support from people who get it.