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Title: Avoidant Attachment / BPD Post by: Green Penguin on November 10, 2025, 07:04:54 AM Not sure how to respond to my partner with BPD. I definitely have an avoidant attachment style meaning I hate conflict. He gets mad because I won’t go back to conversations and put conversations off although I have gotten better because I know he needs a resolution. Everything I have read has said basically we don’t engage, we don’t argue, we don’t defend, etc. So when I take that stance, how do I keep from feeling as though I am avoiding the issue or being told that I am avoiding the issue because I “always walk away”.
Title: Re: Avoidant Attachment / BPD Post by: cynp on November 10, 2025, 11:53:11 AM Something to know is your pwBPD may not accept your discusion as over unless you verify their versio of events whether or not that is the reality. They may demand you go round and round and apologise and accept all blame whether or not that is the truth. it is not always a mystery why we do not want to get unto these conversations with our loved ones and try to avoid them.
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