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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: JsMom on November 25, 2025, 06:49:56 PM



Title: What helped you the most to begin healing
Post by: JsMom on November 25, 2025, 06:49:56 PM
I'm just starting to look at tools and info. I'm not techy so it'll take me a bit. I'm just now accepting my part on a deep level, for my sons bpd. Yes, there are genetic components. Being my dad and my son's dad. But because of my own wounds/issues whatever. I raised him in a home that wasn't emotionally safe for him. Top that off his babysitter (a friend and her husband) molested him. I've tried to make up for the pain I caused by rescuing.... It hasn't worked, healed, made up for  or changed his pain. What do I do that honors him and takes care of myself too?  I'll keep reading topics on this site. I appreciate any tips, advice or a direction where to start. Thank you.


Title: Re: What helped you the most to begin healing
Post by: SoVeryConfused on November 26, 2025, 09:21:47 AM
I highly suggest Family Connections. It's a 12-week class that's free for those with loved ones that have emotional dysregulation from NEA-BPD.
It's quite good - but there's a long wait list to get in.

If you can, I would suggest therapy with someone who is knowledgable of BPD. It requires behavior on our part that goes against everything in us as moms. I hope that's helpful.

No parent is perfect. We have all made mistakes. We can only accept that and try to improve today.  :hug:


Title: Re: What helped you the most to begin healing
Post by: JsMom on November 26, 2025, 02:41:24 PM
Thank you, I really appreciate your taking the time to reply, also your recommendations, and support.