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Title: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: Aesir on February 12, 2017, 03:44:21 PM This is the first time in a VERY long time I will be alone for this holiday. I'm wondering about how I will handle it.
Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: Herodias on February 12, 2017, 04:08:44 PM You will be just fine. This year I don't even care. I had an old BF text me out if the blue to take me out on Valentines day... .I actually said no! I am going to meet him the next day, but I have no interest in anything to do with "Tuesday". Just get your mind set that it is just another day. Single people get all worked up over it for nothing I think. I always did... .When I was married it was a different kind of being worked up. Just remember how holidays make people with PDs act and know you are better off.
Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: joeramabeme on February 12, 2017, 04:56:11 PM Hi Aesir
First time through the Holidays alone, Valentines included, can be difficult. It doesn't have to be "hell", it will help if you prepare yourself for it though. Probably best not to place yourself where memories of your ex will be top of mind. Perhaps some time with friends or family that can be supportive would be good. If that is not possible, maybe plan to login here and talk with others that may be struggling with the same. This is my second valentines without my ex. The first one was challenging but not overwhelming - probably not overwhelming b/c she and I did not have a big routine around what we considered to be a Hallmark Holiday. How long have you been apart from your ex? Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: Aesir on February 12, 2017, 05:25:59 PM Hi Aesir First time through the Holidays alone, Valentines included, can be difficult. It doesn't have to be "hell", it will help if you prepare yourself for it though. Probably best not to place yourself where memories of your ex will be top of mind. Perhaps some time with friends or family that can be supportive would be good. If that is not possible, maybe plan to login here and talk with others that may be struggling with the same. This is my second valentines without my ex. The first one was challenging but not overwhelming - probably not overwhelming b/c she and I did not have a big routine around what we considered to be a Hallmark Holiday. How long have you been apart from your ex? It's been 3 months. Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: Herodias on February 12, 2017, 05:57:42 PM That's hard... .Try and find a friend to do something with or do something nice for yourself. I would do for myself what I would like someone to do for me... .I know it may not feel the same, but it is a start towards self love.
Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: Aesir on February 12, 2017, 07:24:14 PM That's hard... .Try and find a friend to do something with or do something nice for yourself. I would do for myself what I would like someone to do for me... .I know it may not feel the same, but it is a start towards self love. That's a good idea. Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: In a bad way on February 12, 2017, 07:29:18 PM It will be hell for me too, it will be one year since I put the engagement ring on her finger (we got engaged six weeks earlier but it took longer than expected for the ring to be made).
But it will also be exactly 35 weeks to the day since I last saw her. I wonder if she will remember? I doubt it and that in a way makes it even worse. Title: Re: Valentines Day will be hell Post by: SuperJew82 on February 13, 2017, 12:31:36 AM It really is just another day in the year. Stay home and watch some of your favourite movies. Have a beer. Work on some project. Treat it just like any other. Understand that millions of single Americans or wherever you come from are going to dislike the holiday as well... .you are with company!
It's just a silly day. Go buy your mum or daughters some flowers! |