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Title: This is how it should be (watch video). Post by: SuperDaddy on March 06, 2026, 01:14:13 PM After years within a relationship with a BPD partner, we may get accustomed to a pattern of being devalued. So it is important to remember how it is supposed to be, how our partner is supposed to react when we show up, when we are in a healthy relationship:
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/RTPDDeRat2A That may encourage those who are going through abuse to put a stop to it. And, by the way, that's what I have done by living apart and refusing to be around when the interaction is any less than respectful. PS: The video only shows women, but men should also react similarly (perhaps a bit less expressively). Title: Re: This is how it should be (watch video). Post by: Under The Bridge on March 07, 2026, 01:01:30 AM Ah, I remember it well.. when your (non) BPD partner actually smiled when they saw you and showed enthusiasm because they knew you loved them and they had no insecurities. After a BPD experience it really is nice to get back to dating people like that.
MY BPD partner never showed any emotion when arriving for a night out; she'd just walk in and sit down - assuming she hadn't already decided to purposely ignore me. No hug, or 'Missed you' or even a plain old 'hi'. Zero emotion - she could have been sitting in a dentists waiting room for all the enthusiasm she showed. Title: Re: This is how it should be (watch video). Post by: SuperDaddy on March 07, 2026, 07:09:21 PM Yes, now that I remember, both my BPD wife and my BPD ex were thrilled and even enthusiastic every time we met. I think that changed after they had kids. Then they became constantly distressed about the kids. I never got to the point of constant devaluation, but the intermittent disrespectful attitude and the lack of praise already take a toll on how we feel about being with them. That's what makes me think that I won't wait for my wife's recovery, that I might drift in another direction.
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