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Title: > new here Post by: Sanch@2017 on March 10, 2026, 01:16:36 PM Hi,
I live in DFW area and am a gay male, 60 years. Married to a BPD who is 35 for 10 years. I am done with this relationship. I no longer feel the feelings that i used to feel and am just done. However, I discovered the SWOE book and workbook and see that 99%applies to my spouse. I am afraid to leave. So i am in a learning mode and seeking clarity, wisdom, and comradery. Thanks! Title: Re: new here Post by: Mutt on March 10, 2026, 03:22:58 PM Hi Sanch@2017,
Welcome to BPDFamily. I’m really glad you found us. It sounds like you’ve already started doing some reading and reflection. A lot of members here first arrive after coming across Stop Walking on Eggshells, and many say the same thing you did, that it felt like the book was describing their own relationship. It can be a powerful moment of clarity. I moved your post over to the Bettering a Relationship board since you mentioned you are still in the relationship right now. That section tends to be the best place to start when someone is trying to understand the dynamics and learn some new tools while still involved. Please feel free to look around the other boards as well and participate wherever something resonates with you. Many members read across several sections as they learn and figure out what fits their situation. It sounds like you’re in a learning mode and looking for clarity and wisdom. You’ll find many people here who have walked a similar path and are working through the same questions. When you feel ready, you might share a little more about what has been the hardest part of the relationship lately, or what makes leaving feel frightening right now. Again, welcome. I’m glad you’re here. Mutt |