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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: marchstar on April 08, 2026, 08:21:48 PM



Title: Added trauma and poor choices
Post by: marchstar on April 08, 2026, 08:21:48 PM
My 27yo daughter was diagnosed with BPD at 16. When I found out about her illness I read Stop Walking on Egghells by Randi Kreger and it helped me understand so much. A few years ago she made some poor choices and was involved in a very abusive relationship. Now she is working through the trauma. What are some resources I can find to help me, help her?


Title: Re: Added trauma and poor choices
Post by: Mutt on April 16, 2026, 07:22:49 PM
Hi marchstar, welcome-glad you found your way here.

That’s a heavy mix-BPD plus trauma from an abusive relationship. Makes sense you’re looking for ways to support her without it overwhelming both of you.

You’ve already done a lot by educating yourself. From here, keeping it simple can help:

   •   DBT (skills for regulation and stability)
   •   Trauma-informed therapy (at her pace)
   •   For you: boundaries + validation (support without taking it all on)

If you’re open to sharing-what kind of support is she getting right now?