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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Milatuo on April 17, 2026, 06:55:36 AM



Title: How To Communicate With BPD Husband ?
Post by: Milatuo on April 17, 2026, 06:55:36 AM
Hello…..

To break this pattern, a different communication style is needed where he feels loved and appreciated.

Can someone helped me with this?
How to communicate with untreated BPD HUSBAND ?

Thank You


Title: Re: How To Communicate With BPD Husband ?
Post by: ForeverDad on April 17, 2026, 01:31:47 PM
Since there are limits to which we can influence others in our lives, we can educate ourselves and learn time-tested communication skills - some not intuitive - to reduce the conflict and set better boundaries of behavior.

We may be inclined to use a lot of logical approaches (JADE = Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) that don't work well with these acting-out personality disorders.  They're too often consumed with their feelings (for them feelings = facts, especially in the moment) rather than objective reality.  Some more effective approaches are described in our |---> Tools and Skills workshops (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329744.0) board where SET, BIFF and others are described.